|My awesome daughter.|
Photo Credit: David Venezia
Ever since Kat could walk, we've been getting our hands dirty. We build, we dig, we collect, and we examine. We try to see problems as challenges and questions tend to invite ideas and quests to find answers. Of course, we all have our strengths and weaknesses, but we're always seeking to build our skills and improve our outlooks. I've wanted Kat to grow up feeling empowered, capable, and confident. So far, she has had little trouble powering through and looking for the next fun thing.
Which is why I was so surprised when we began our last learning adventure. We were having some issues with our car, and we needed to get some routine maintenance done. I figured that we could save a little bit of money by doing some of the work ourselves. We would start with checking our power steering fluid and changing our air filter. As I was watching a video tutorial on YouTube, Kat turned to me and with all seriousness, said, "Mom, what are you doing? Girls don't work on cars!".
I was shocked! Girls DO work on cars, I've worked on cars! Where did she get this idea? I stopped the video and asked her what she meant. She repeated her statement with the same sincerity. I promptly grabbed the keys and said "let's go!" and we drove off to the nearby auto store.
As we walked through the tool isle, I pointed out the tools that we had at our house and we examined the ones that she hadn't seen before. We looked at different ratchet sizes and socket heads, screwdrivers and voltmeters. We talked about what each tool might be used for, and how some tools make things much easier (a ratchet and socket compared to a wrench). Then we set off to get some help finding our air filter.
|Looking for the air filter housing.|
Once we had our supplies, we set to work! I showed Kat how to set up the funnel in our power steering fluid housing, then I showed her how to check to make sure the fluid levels were correct. Then it was time to get to the air filter. After re-watching the tutorial, I popped the hood and feigned ignorance as to where the air filter housing was. Kat was really excited to be able to find it before me!
|She found it! Now, to take it out and replace it!|
|Ew! It was really dirty!|
The rest of the day was filled with conversations about women and how their roles have changed over the years. For a long time, women were not considered among the ranks of doctors, scientists, veterinarians, or mechanics (to name a few). Women often stayed at home, and their participation in society was left at the house. But ideas change, societies evolve, and now PEOPLE are doctors, people work on cars, and people look at the world, think about things, and try to figure it all out. Whether or not you can do something is no longer predicated on being a man or a woman, it's dependent on whether you want to devote the time to learn, practice, and TRY.
In the course of these conversations, Kat revealed the reason why she didn't think women worked on cars, even though she had sat out with me while I tinkered with ours. She said, "well yeah, I've seen YOU do it Mom, but I've never seen any other girls do it". I thought that was fairly reasonable, after all, one of the first ways to gather evidence about anything is through observation. I smiled as I pulled up my Facebook thread where there were plenty of girls commiserating with Kat's dilemma and sharing their own stories of working on cars. We even found out about a local girl built auto repair shop in Phoenix! By the end of the day, Kat had learned about empowerment and had experienced the solidarity of women breaking personal barriers and accomplishing their own triumphs.
A week later, I found myself reminiscing over our day of girl power. I remembered the auto repair shop and wondered if they might be willing to show Kat around. I called 180 Degree Automotive Inc., and shared our story with Bogi Lateiner, the owner. Bogi had started out fixing cars in her driveway with little more than a box of tools. Her hard earned successes led her to purchase the building that would become 180 Degree Automotive. She now runs a local business friendly auto repair shop that focuses on empowerment by hiring excellent qualified staff (mostly women!) and giving FREE classes to women to learn how to change their tires, check their fluids, and give tips on routine maintenance on their cars.
When I shared our story with Bogi, she invited us to come to her shop and take a tour, meet the staff, and have some girl talk with car talk. Kat was thrilled at the prospect that she would actually get to meet other girls who work on cars! When we walked in, we were greeted by a gorgeous and inviting lobby (free gourmet coffee!) with a huge wall adorned with photographs of women working on cars, motorcycles, even airplanes!
After a tour of the facility, Kat was able to meet some of the mechanics. One of them, a woman named Angel, shared her story of being allowed to come in and observe the mechanics working in the shop. Every day before school, she would come in and watch, asking the master mechanic questions and learning about the intricacies of different cars. After a while, she was hired on and has worked there (and loved it) ever since. As we watched her work, she brought out various tools and showed them to Kat while explaining how they worked. It was a pleasure for both me and Kat to watch the mechanics as they talked tools and fixed cars.
Overall, this experience has been incredible for Kat's independence and confidence in herself as a growing girl. It was neat to see how one simple sentence could lead us on such a road to discovery. It has marked a new beginning where she gets to independently realize her own triumphs and accomplishments. This was a fantastic opportunity to realize that we really can do whatever it is that our hearts desire. Whether it's working on cars, working with computers, discovering through science or exploring with art, we can choose if we want to devote the time to learn, practice, and master something. Whatever it is that we devote ourselves to, we can do it!